Many couples only consider therapy after relationship issues become difficult, a loss of trust occurs, arguments become more frequent, or a lack of intimacy begins to take shape.
But couples therapy can do more than just resolve issues or reignite a lost spark. It can strengthen healthy relationships and help prevent relationship issues before they happen — and it can help couples when they consider getting married or moving in together. It can help couples thinking about having a child. It can help couples with good relationships reach higher levels of trust and intimacy.
Couples therapy, which includes marriage counseling and premarital counseling, is a type of talk therapy focused on improving communication and resolving issues. Your therapist will help you find ways to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs respectfully while still actively listening to your partner. They’ll help you hear your partner’s needs while making sure you also feel heard. This creates a deeper level of understanding between you that helps with conflict resolution, trust, and emotional intimacy.
Even if you’ve decided to separate or end the relationship, couples counseling can help do so in a respectful way that minimizes the impact on children and other family members.
At Elite DNA, we want to help you experience the intimate, satisfying relationship everyone deserves. This is why we provide couples counseling in Florida through in-person sessions or remotely via telehealth.
Here are some details about what you can expect from couples therapy and how it can benefit your relationship.
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The Benefits of Couples Therapy
Better Communication
During couples counseling, your therapist creates a safe, judgment-free, neutral space where both partners can express their feelings and perspectives. For many couples, this alone is extremely helpful. For example, in the past, some couples may have struggled to express themselves openly out of fear of anger or defensiveness. The safety of a neutral, third-party therapist and a judgment-free space can help couples express pent-up thoughts and feelings.
Your therapist will help you develop active listening techniques. This will help you truly understand your partner’s needs and concerns. Productive conversations happen when couples feel that their partners truly hear and understand them.
Therapists also help couples identify unhealthy communication patterns like “blame games,” extensive criticism, or stonewalling. Your therapist may try to find the issues that underly these unhealthy patterns like past emotional wounds, unmet needs, and insecurities that can all lead to communication issues. Identifying those root causes often leads to dramatic improvements in communication and understanding.
When you can communicate effectively, you create deeper understanding, increased compassion, and greater empathy. As a result, couples strengthen their relationship, feel closer emotionally, and become partners when working through issues.
Resolving Issues
Resolving emotionally charged issues is almost impossible without solid communication skills.
During couples therapy, your therapist will help you move from blaming to understanding. They’ll guide you toward understanding issues from your partner’s perspective and identifying the underlying causes. Your therapist can also help you develop better skills for compromise and negotiation — and assist you in brainstorming solutions together and working towards a win-win solution.
When you understand one another’s priorities and work together to find a solution, you can create positive change, reduce resentment, and feel closer to one another.
Direction and Purpose
Relationship issues can arise when partners have different goals for the relationship, different ideas of what’s important, or a misunderstanding of what their partner needs from the relationship.
Couples therapy can help you and your partner identify shared relationship goals, i.e., clear goals that both of you understand and agree on. Your therapist can help identify any unrealistic or unspoken expectations from the relationship.
They’ll also encourage you to reflect on your desires and needs. Many times, couples discover needs they weren’t aware of, either in their partners or themselves. Once these are identified, they’re easier to address.
Additionally, your therapist may ask you to reminisce about what initially brought you together. Reconnecting with those positive memories from the early days of your relationship can help you find a renewed sense of direction and purpose.
At the end of the day, couples therapy helps you and your partner identify each other’s strengths and weaknesses and find ways to complement each other as a couple.
Your therapist may guide you through developing short and long-term goals, for you as a couple and individuals. Those might involve individual career aspirations, travel plans, or family planning. Your therapist will help you prioritize them and develop a plan for working together to achieve them.
When couples find a renewed sense of purpose and direction that supports individual and relationship goals, couples often discover a heightened level of intimacy.
Deeper Intimacy & Connection
Unmet needs and unexpressed issues create invisible barriers in relationships. This can result in everything from emotional disconnection to intimacy issues.
In couples therapy, your therapist will encourage you to be more vulnerable and express those unmet needs openly. They’ll help you explore your partner’s non-verbal communication and recognize when your partner might have an unexpressed concern. Feeling heard, even when we don’t speak, increases our sense of connection and emotional intimacy.
Your therapist may help you identify past pain or negative emotional experiences influencing your current relationship. Fully addressing those issues might best be addressed in individual therapy. But surfacing them in couples therapy creates a deeper sense of understanding and empathy. When your partner understands your past wounds, and you understand theirs, it’s easier to be mindful of one another’s past and move forward together.
Conflict Management
When conflict arises, one of our first reactions is to find someone to blame.
When couples experience conflict, it often means blaming their partner.
The reaction, though not uncommon, often creates more conflict.
In couples therapy, therapists help guide you from blaming to understanding. Using a mindset of understanding, conflicts can be seen as a “what” rather than a “who,” and can be resolved much more easily.
Your therapist may also help you explore individual triggers that escalate a conflict. Past experiences and communication patterns may make a conflict more emotionally charged. Understanding these triggers, both in your partner and yourself, can help you de-escalate a conflict. By de-escalating you’re better equipped to address the underlying causes of the conflict.
Couples therapy can also help you develop better emotional regulation skills to prevent conflicts from escalating. This can also foster more productive discussions and brainstorming ways to resolve the conflict.
Your therapist will also help you approach conflict with fairness and respect for your partner’s feelings. This creates a collaborative approach to conflict resolution, addressing the issue together rather than assigning blame to one partner or the other.
Mutual Decision-Making
When combined, mutual decision-making skills can help you make better, more emotionally satisfying decisions as a couple. You can communicate your needs more effectively, understand your partner’s needs better, and find solutions that benefit you both. Getting married, relocating, starting a family, or (in some cases) choosing to end the relationship — whatever you decide, you’ll have the tools to make a well-thought-out decision together.
Couples Therapy at Elite DNA
At Elite DNA, we offer couples counseling in Florida for couples at every stage in their relationships. Our mental health professionals can work with you at one of our many locations across the state or provide telehealth therapy sessions to you in the comfort of your home.
We use multiple therapeutic modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), supportive psychotherapy, and trauma-informed care for those whose past trauma may be affecting current relationships.
We also offer family therapy. A family therapist can help each member of your family overcome challenges, become the best version of themselves, and function better within the family unit.
We’re dedicated to the well-being of you, your partner, and your entire family.
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